Kids are resilient in many areas. The place where they are not resilient resides in their emotional lability. Kids suffer more ups and downs than any other age group. Factored into t his is that their hormones raging, their self-esteem is bouncing, and, among many other things, they haven’t yet figured out or matured enough to know who they are or where they want to go. The live in the moment – quite a dangerous place to live. These days, they are facing obstacles that those of us who are 30 or above never even dreamed anyone would have to face – especially small children. I’m talking about gender identification. This society and culture has robbed them of their childhood and their God given sexual identification as male or female. It’s not just a mess, it’s a natural disaster. I don’t see it getting much better until Jesus returns and fixes all the brokenness for good.
Here are a few ideas:
- You never want to say or do anything that would break their spirit. Trying to make them something that they aren’t is no exception. Listen, God knows what He’s doing, so encourage them to embrace who the Lord made them to be.
- If necessary, pull them out of public school and do whatever it takes to home school them. That’s exactly what I would do if my kids were still young and at home.
- Always maneuver your speech to be encouraging. When you tell a kid, ‘no’, it means, ‘yes’. Help them to formulate their own opinions by asking questions rather than making demands of them. Let them know how much you love them and share your feelings with them. Don’t just listen… really hear them. Repeat what they say back to them and ask them to explain further. Let them know you are hanging on every word they speak.
- Always speak the truth to them or they will learn to speak lies.